Overcoming tragedy

I’ve been trying to write this since yesterday’s events in Boston, but I just can’t seem to find the words to express what I want to say. Do I write a rambling, long winded post? A simple and short post? Do I just not say anything at all? But the point of blogging is to express yourself, right? Usually I write about dog related things, but today I feel like writing about the current events…but what, and how, do I say it? I’ve written and then deleted…written again, deleted some more. Here is what I’ve come up with….

Looking back at my childhood, and the freedom I had…it makes me sad for my son, and the future generations. I was able to walk down the street to a friend’s house at any time. I spent hours and hours at the barn, riding horses and goofing around. I didn’t have to have a cell phone, and my parents didn’t have to walk me there. We found where our family members and friends were, by who’s yard their bike was laying in. I walked a mile or so to the bus stop every day, meeting friends along the way. There was no fear that I was going to get kidnapped, or beat up on the bus. Our family traveled often, and there was no fear that somebody might hijack our plane. Now, those thoughts are there; the fear is there.

So, what do “we” do to move past yet another tragedy? As a mother of a young child…a child who is a natural worrier and constantly anxious about life’s uncertainties…I have to approach the topic of these “events” carefully. I don’t want to scare him any more than he already is. But, I also want him to be aware of the things going on around us. I want him to be thankful for each day, and to appreciate that our friends and family are all safe and living life happily. And, as Mister Rogers’ mom said (see below), there are always helpers. I want my son to find the “good” in the times of tragedy. For example, when the Sandy Hook tragedy happened, I told my son what happened. I told him that while we’d like to think that it will never happen at his school, we just never know. The important thing to see is all of the teachers and administrators that gave their lives to protect the children. Find the “helpers.”


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The evil hurts and kills and destroys. That makes it easy to focus on the evil. But we should really focus on the good people. The ones that ran towards the emergency, risking their lives to help others. Those people were easy to spot at 9-11, just as they were at the Boston marathon. You see police, military men and women, fellow runners and spectators, all running to help those that were hurt. And since yesterday’s events, we see people coming together to support those effected. That is how we move on. We pick each other up, dust ourselves off, and take the next step. It doesn’t mean that the gone are forgotten. It just means that we are not going to let the fear rule our lives.

So, in times of need, I encourage us all to be one of those “helpers”. Inspire the good, and say “screw you!” to the evil! My thoughts & prayers go out to all those effected by yesterday’s tragedy, as well as the many effected by the tragedies we have had over the recent years.

I think actor/comedian, Patton Oswalt, said it perfectly yesterday, so I will leave you now with his quote…

“I remember, when 9/11 went down, my reaction was, ‘Well, I’ve had it with  humanity,” But I was wrong. I don’t know what’s going to be revealed to be behind all  of this mayhem. One human insect or a poisonous mass of broken sociopaths, but here’s what I DO know. If it’s one person or a HUNDRED people, that  number is not even a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of a percent of the  population on this planet. You watch the videos of the carnage and there are  people running TOWARDS the destruction to help out. So when you spot violence, or bigotry, or intolerance or fear or just  garden-variety misogyny, hatred or ignorance, just look it in the eye and think,  ‘The good outnumber you, and we always will”.”