Confessions of a foster mom

“Confessions of a Foster Mom”…that would be a cute name for a blog! Maybe it already exists. Anyway, that has nothing to do with what I’m writing about today!

I thought it might be time to confess something. I hope you, as my readers, friends, etc, will be understanding and not judge me.

never judge

Some of you may be wondering why I haven’t gotten a new foster yet. Lord knows there are lots of dogs in need. And that is why this is hard to admit, but I have decided to take a break from fostering.

To make a long story short, my son has been having some struggles with school (learning wise, not behavior). At the time when he first started having some trouble, I had Chelsea, and my two dogs. While Chelsea was a very good girl, and well behaved, I felt that I really needed to give her a lot of time. To be honest, I feel as a foster mom, I should give extra time to all of my foster dogs. My house is supposed to be their safe place, where they heal from wounds, and are spoiled with love, until their forever family finds them. With Chelsea being so scared of the world, I didn’t feel I was giving everyone a fair amount of attention. Oscar was new to our family, Lucy deserves alone time, Chelsea needed me, and then there was my human child! While I love my dogs as family members, my son DOES come first, always. So, I made the decision that once Chelsea got adopted, I would take a break from fostering to give my three some much needed attention. I didn’t realize Chelsea was going to be adopted so quickly, but thankfully her forever family came much sooner than expected! (Stay tuned for an update from them soon!)

I have gone back and forth about this decision. I feel very guilty and sad that there are SO many dogs that need help, and I am not opening my home to them. I see these dogs being posted as urgent, and I know that I can’t help. I also know that the rescue group has dogs being returned…3 just this week! But, I also know that Jayden needs me. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for your family, and I will make any sacrifice to help my child excel.

me&Jay

SO…that being said…I have actually realized there has been a benefit to not having a foster dog. Lucy & Oscar have bonded! While Lucy is a lover and a social butterfly, she is actually pretty stingy when it comes to cuddling. She does not like anyone (human or animal) to touch her hips. If a dog tries to cuddle up to her, most of the time she will make a growl-type sound and move. She likes to have her own space. Oscar however is a MAJOR cuddler. He wants to be up against someone at all times! Oscar has also never been with just Lucy. I had Sassy when I got him, and then we got Chelsea. So Lucy & Oscar never had the chance to just be friends and bond, to realize that they were permanents in our home.

Over the last few weeks, I have seen them really bond. They cuddle all the time now. Lucy even lets him lean and nibble on her. They play well together, and seem to really love each other. They even seem to help each other sometimes! For example, Oscar will scratch at the door if he wants to go out, but Lucy doesn’t. Now, if Lucy is at the door, Oscar goes to the door and scratches. I go to let them out, but he steps back to stay inside. It’s like he is just helping his sister out! He also was checking on her yesterday, when she had a hurt paw. (She is always having issues with her paws, but that’s another post, another time!) I put her in the kennel so she could rest, and Oscar kept going over to her. Then when they were playing, he was being extra gentle, making sure he never grabbed her paw with his mouth like he normally does.

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While I have missed having a foster dog around…and I really have truly missed having a third dog…I know that it has been the best decision for our family. I have had plans to go out of town a couple times, a few months in a row, and that makes it difficult on the rescue group, since they have to find a place for the dog to go until I’m back. The break has allowed Oscar & Lucy to bond. And most importantly, I’ve been able to give my son the time and attention he needs. I still 100% believe in the need for fostering, and I will continue to promote and share the dogs in need. I do plan on taking a foster dog soon, as it gets closer to summer time.

Until then, I hope you will continue to follow my journey as a doggie mom, whether it be to my perma-dogs or a new foster dog. And thank you, as always, for reading!

 

5 thoughts on “Confessions of a foster mom”

  1. I applaud you for doing what you need to do for your family. The time will go by so quick and you will have another foster with you before you even know it. I have been following your blog for very long, but I am thoroughly enjoying it. Have a great day!

    1. Thank you so much for the understanding, and for reading! I really appreciate it! 🙂 Have a wonderful week!

  2. I sadly had to stop fostering for a short time at the moment as well. I have to keep making trips to Orlando and I don’t want my foster to have to keep being bounced around into a temp foster because I went away for the weekend. It makes me very sad and I feel almost selfish. But as soon as May comes along I will be able to foster again and i am very excited to continue to help save lives. It is understandable. We aren’t super heros. Some things end up being a bit more of a priority. But at least you haven’t given it up forever.

    1. That’s funny, that’s where I have to go too! I totally feel your pain, and I will begin fostering around the month of May too! Thanks for not giving it up completely. I know you are a great foster mama! 🙂

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